|It's a nice day for a...wedding
||[Feb. 15th, 2009|07:00 pm]
Yesterday was Valentine's day. I managed to avoid most of the mushiness in the sense that I was at my cousin's wedding. I can't seem to string sentences together properly, so I'll just go wit h|
I'm not sure what I can say. It's becoming quite clear that I don't know my extended family that well, although it's true of everyone to say that outside of your immediate family, it's more likely to be your friends, rather than your extended family who know you best.
The other thing that I found interesting was that I was talking to one of my other cousins, and mentioned the alopecia stuff. It's really weird to hear a very good-looking woman say "I'd kill for your body", simply because the only areas even available to shave are patches of my legs. The unsaid part was, "Yeah, the feeling's mutual".
So, turns out one of my teenage cousin's has turned emo. It actually meant I could talk to him about music a bit, and there is hope to corrupt him away from Slipknot or similar. I didn't realise at the time, but it turns out he likes his sharps. Christ, like, he's 14!
I wish I could actually help him out. Question is, how the fuck can I expect him to take someone just under twice his age seriously. I'll admit, I stand on the outside of the emo scene, not particularly wishing to look in - it's easier for them to be an object of derision in my former uber-goth world view if I don't know anything about them. And hey, I've cut once, but just once and got very little from it. At the same time, one of the reasons I want this goddamn tattoo is that it's my payoff for not having cut during the tough times during the summer. I'd love to take him aside, and just offer... something, but I hardly know the guy. Plus, I can't force myself on him.
The one thing I really want to do is exactly the thing that I shouldn't, from a family-politics point of view. The only practical thing I can do is get some alcohol swabs and some bio-oil, give them to him and say "Well, if you're going to do this, let's fucking well keep it clean". Of course, that would be seen as sending out entirely the wrong signals of encouraging it all, but quite frankly, I just want him not to get extra infections, and to keep scarring to a minimum.
Like I said, wish I could do something. Buggery.